Yesterday, Joe Paterno died. He was 85 years old. He set and established records for most games won, bowl games coached, most bowl games won and many more accomplishments that may never be surpassed. He also positively influenced the lives of thousands of players, students, opponents and friends who were fortunate enough to have played for and known this extraordinary man. His kind may never pass this way again.
While listening to all of the recollections and statements his former players and friends uttered on Sunday, I recalled the words of a marvelous poem by Linda Ellis. It is entitled Your Dash and it refers to the dash that is present on most tombstones. Joe’s will someday read 1926-2012. In her poem, Ms.Ellis concludes by saying “So when your eulogy is being read, with your life’s actions to rehash, would you be proud of the things they say and how you spent your dash?”
In the days and weeks to come many people will recall the numerous kind deeds, gifts of charity and advice Joe has given to those whose lives he influenced. Unfortunately, they will also speak about the tragedy of alleged child abuse that one of his assistants is accused of. Joe even stated that he wished he had done more. I am certain, that given the benefit of hindsight, he would have, if he had only known the truth. In the weeks and years to come, we will all learn the truth. Sadly, Joe will not have the gift of finally understanding everything that happened in Happy Valley. And that is the real tragedy of his passing.
Matt Millen, one of his former players and now a TV analyst, stated yesterday that he believed that Joe died of a broken heart. I agree with him completely. Much like coach Paul “Bear” Bryant of Alabama, who died weeks after leaving the Alabama head coaching position, Joe really began to die when he was fired from his job as coach of the Nittany Lions. It merely took a few weeks for him to lose his battle with cancer. But should we only remember the final chapter of his long and productive life? I think not.
We should remember everything that this good and decent man accomplished during his 85 years on earth. We should recall the friends, family and players who are much better off today because of knowing this unique man. Thousands of future Penn State students will certainly benefit from his many monetary gifts to the university and his imprint will be remembered as fondly as the paw print that is frequently displayed on the many logos and banners featuring Penn State.
The question left to ponder is how you will live your dash. Joe’s dash is now complete. Yours is still out there to craft. Will you be proud? I pray that Joe is.